Love and hate are basic human affects. Previous research has focused on the classification, functions, and other aspects of these two affects. However, few studies have been conducted on the relationship between love and hate.
Hate, within the context of a romantic relationship, arises mainly from a relational betrayal. Researchers have proposed a concept related to romantic hate, romantic jealousy, which describes the negative attitudes, anger, and fear associated with having a relationship.
What is marriage??
Marriage is the Union between two people . It is the process by which two people decide to make their relationship public, official and PERMANENT. It is the joining of two people in a bond that PUTATIVELY LAST.
the word “parmanent” in the definition of marriage was delibrate. If love is the only reason why you marry then there are times we just are not happy with our spouses and may even hate them for a short period of time or maybe even weeks . What happens in those times ???
Check out the Era when our four father’s married their children out for alliance purposes and to maintain friendships and avoid wars… They never had the rate of divorce like we have today that we all want to marry ordinarily because we love the people so much and we think we can’t leave with anyone else if not them.
Women’s rights, no-fault divorce laws, and a greater emphasis on the pursuit of personal happiness in the 1970s opened the door to more choice and, therefore, more divorce.
I’m not saying love shouldn’t be on the list of things that need to be in your relationship, but it doesn’t need to be No.1 and perhaps it shouldn’t be.
Here are some reasons I think marrying primarily for love is not wise.
Here are some reasons I think marrying primarily for love is not wise.
1. Love is a changeable emotion.
As quickly as you fall in love, you can fall out of love. Then what? Either the relationship ends or it becomes toxic. If love is your primary connection, the glue is gone.
2. Love does not make for a strong enough foundation.
Yes, love is strong but, due to the fact that it can evaporate, it is not something that can stand alone as the basis for a long-term relationship (especially when kids are involved). Anything built on a foundation of love is subject to crumbling.
3. Love is far from “all you need.”
You need mutual respect, shared goals and compatibility way more than you need love to have a sustainable, lasting relationship. People “fall in love with love” just as Kim Kardashian showed us, because they think it will carry them the distance. We all want to be wanted and we love to love yet, if you had a recipe for a strong, healthy relationship, it might look like this: 1 Cup respect; 1 Cup shared goals; 3 Cups compatibility, 1 Tablespoon love, 1 teaspoon attraction (optional!)
This is opened to any form of criticism that you may want to give it for those of us that believe soo much in love….. But you should Know that if you marry for love sake alone, it wont last..
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